Does everybody in your house speak a different language?

Let’s talk love languages through a story of how I really screwed up this past weekend.

Saturday was the culmination of a 3 month long project: a surprise bedroom makeover for my daughter, for her upcoming 10th birthday.

My wife had been planning this surprise since January and has been painstakingly considering each and every detail, wanting to create a special space that would honor our daughter’s still young age but also her impending adolescence.

The reveal was supposed to be between my daughter’s musical rehearsal and an afternoon movie this past Saturday.  I, the dad, flubbed it up and ran errands with my daughter between the two events – shoving off the reveal into the early evening.

Well, my wife – who has poured her heart and soul into this project – was not completely pleased with my trip to the drug store. She was so excited to show our daughter her new room!
I was a little confused what the big deal was (some of you are rolling your eyes at me right now), but as we talked about it, I finally got it.

This room was a love letter from my wife to my daughter.  It was my wife speaking her love language to my daughter through an amazing act of service. I knew the room was a special gift, but I don’t think I realized just how much it meant. I did, but I didn’t.

I should have known.  When I come home on Monday nights and my wife has taken out the garbage cans, I know she is expressing her love for me. Her love language is acts of service. This room was that kind of service to the nth power.  And you can see by the pictures below, it was an amazing act of service – that my daughter absolutely loved.


Great Job Mom!


She loved it!

My love language? It might be obvious as this email draws on and on that it is words of affirmation.

One of my sons? His is one-on-one time.  He got up this morning at 5:30 to do Wii Fit while I got ready for work. He’s always sheepdogging me or my wife or one of the grands go have alone time.

My other son? He’s a chip off his mom’s block. He spent much of Sunday making sandwiches for his brother and me and doing chores around the house.  He loves to serve.

Many of you are familiar with this idea of Gary Chapman’s – the Five Love Languages. We all realize how each of us might express and prefer to receive love differently.

Sometimes we don’t realize that this is the case; therefore, we struggle really getting through to each other emotionally.

I mentioned in my email last night, that over the next 7 days, I was going to share some (or maybe all) of a 7 Day Family Challenge from Ziglar family.  Today’s challenge is all about relationships from the man who wrote the book that I mentioned above….

As an author, speaker, and counselor, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the 5 Love Languages series of books, has a real heart for helping people form lasting relationships.

He is here today to start off the 7-Day Family Challenge from Ziglar family. Dr. Chapman will:

  • Share with you an insider’s look at the 5 Love Languages.
  • Suggest how you might identify the language that you, your spouse, and your children each favor
  • Give specific tips for how you can learn to best speak the language of your family members.

Click here to get started with Dr. Gary Chapman and Challenge number one:

…and then get ready for another great message each day for the rest of the week!


PS – You just might be speaking a totally different language than your spouse and/or children. As a dude, I sometimes think I know each and every person so well, but it’s not always the case (as was evident this weekend). Learn more from Dr. Gary Chapman here:

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