Every day comes down to the decisions we make.
What we will say. What we won’t say. What we do. What we eat.
If you’re like me, decisions often happen like a pinball in a pinball machine. Bouncing around from one to another with little control, depending on others (the bumpers and flippers) to determine what we do.
We must get better and owning our own decisions.
Here are three filters I’m working extremely hard to build into my decision making process. Maybe they can help you, too:
- What does love require of me? Ask this question before saying something (or not saying something). Ask this question before flagging on a commitment. Ask this before making that call or avoiding that call or going to this place vs. that place.
- What is the wise thing to do? This question is from a sermon series by Andy Stanley He teases the question out like this: In light of my past experience, current circumstances, and future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing to do? Try that question on for size today.
- What does unmitigated discipline look like in this situation? This question is courtesy of Jocko Willink. It helps with decisions around donuts and much more. What does your ideal, disciplined self do in any one situation? Do that thing. Sacrifice the quick hit for what you really want in the long run.
When you implement these filters, remember the principle of progress over perfection. These filters are ideals. As a Christian, I see them as deeply biblical and even spotlights as to why I need the work of the Holy Spirit in my life to help me.
Doing what is loving, wise, and self-disciplined is often doing the thing that is simple, yet hard.
But if we want to be the person we want to be for those who depend on us, it’ll be worth the effort.