I’m a huge advocate of self-care.
I believe we, as parents or caregivers of any sort – whether we’re leaders in a corporate or community context or a stay-at-home mom, dad, or primary caregiver for an elderly parent – have a duty to take care of ourselves.
You have to tend to your emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health. We should toss ‘financial health’ onto that list, too.
When we’re not operating at our best, then we’re no good to the rest.
That idea aside, we need to be careful what we consider to be time spent in ‘self-care’ especially when your choice is spending time with your spouse, child, or friend vs. taking some ‘me’ time.
Scrolling through our Instagram feeds for the 49th time that hour isn’t self-care.
Binging on sports, Netflix, or some other entertainment isn’t self-care.
When you have a kiddo wandering around the house and you know you’ve not taken real time with that kiddo recently, then its time to set down your own device or take a break from your hobby and do something with the kiddo.
Even if it’s something that you have no desire to do.
Even if it feels like a sacrifice (normally it’s just us breaking some kind of media addiction for 30 minutes and not a true ‘me’ sacrifice).
Get outside. Read a book. Play a game. Start a project around the house, even if the kiddo really doesn’t have a lot of project skills.
Right now, as I write this, I’m faced with this choice, so I’m going to shut this post down now, hit publish and go play a board game or something like that.