One hard-fought lesson I’ve been learning is that problems do not improve with time, especially if that time involves lack of communication.
How many times have we had one-sided conversations with someone, while we’re talking to someone else or rolling over things in our heads?
In other words, we have a problem or situation that involves Person A. We discuss it with Persons B, C, and D or simply lash out at the problem – or at Person A – in our own minds.
And somehow we expect things to improve.
They do not improve. And often, Person A is completely clueless that something’s going on.
Time seldom improves things. Lack of direct communication seldom improves things.
We have to teach ourselves to have the difficult conversations. To have a bias toward action against the problem (not the persons involved).
Problems spoil like old fruit. They don’t get better with time like fine wines.
