I’m in the middle of a short reading plan in YouVersion. The plan is based on the classic Christian living book Boundaries.
The big idea: We all have a particular plot of emotional, mental, physical land that we have been given control of.
From there, we create boundaries that help keep the bad out and the good in.
The boundaries have to be permeable so that more good can make its way in. They also have to be permeable enough to let the bad out.
Unfortunately, many of us have reversed the flow of good and bad. We’re nervous to let good in. We’re scared to let the bad out.
Do you recognize these types of statements:
- I’m just not able to do that.
- I’m just that way.
- I can’t change. It’s just who I am.
- They don’t care what I have to say.
- Nobody thinks my ideas matter.
- I’ve been too bad for too long.
Generally, these statements prevent you ushering the bad out – the sin, resentment, the fear, feelings of uselessness.
They also hinder the good from coming in – allowing others to speak life into you, allowing ourselves to share with someone who genuinely cares and who can identify the contributions you can make, allowing others to help bear burdens.
Boundaries allow us to visualize where we need to protect ourselves – both from forces on the outside and from forces on the inside.
They also allow us to consider clearly what we allow in.
Most importantly, the idea helps us see our ownership and power to make these decisions.
What or who do you need to let in?
What do you need to usher out via forgiveness, confession, or replacing old thoughts with new?