I was talking to a colleague of mine. A nonprofit colleague – someone who helps run a theater troupe that my daughter is a part of.
We were discussing whether or not my daughter should have auditioned for the current production that the troupe is currently rehearsing for (as of this writing).
In some ways, my daughter has a bit of regret at not auditioning. She wasn’t thrilled about the show and was concerned about the number of parts for her type.
She also had an opportunity to audition for The Sound of Music with a newer theater group in our area. That opportunity was more appealing to her.
Two good options were available to her. She made her decision (The Sound of Music), and we’ve had to live with it.
Now, given the title of this post, you’d assume that I think she made a bad decision.
I’m not sure if she did or not. It’s impossible to know if she could have won one of the parts she might have wanted in her normal troupe’s production.
She didn’t win the part in The Sound of Music that she wanted, so part of her was like, ‘Maybe…. Maybe I could have gotten something in the other one.’
But that is where things can spiral. That’s when you decide to identify a decision as a ‘bad’ decision based on nothing but speculation.
A bad decision like drinking too much and driving or hitting on your best friend’s wife, now those will have some obvious consequences. You kinda know you were stupid.
But a bad decision about a choice between two good opportunities is a hard thing to handle. This kind of decision is hard to suss out if it were bad or good.
If the choice you made didn’t turn out in the ideal way you hoped, then it puts you in this endless state of ‘What if????’
That state is one of the worst states to be in!
So, how do you make the most out of the seemingly – or possibly – bad choice that you made?
You throw yourself full-bore into your decision. You make the absolute most of it. You steward your decision well.
My daughter ended up in the ensemble for The Sound of Music. She’s a nun and a party guest. I’m sure she sings in the background here or there (she has a gorgeous voice… check her out here).
I told her exactly that: We’ve made a decision. There’s no going back. Whether it was good or bad is irrelevant for now. Just be all in where you are.
It’s my belief that the best way to change your position or to make good on a bad choice is to go all in and learn everything you can in that situation.
If you’re a person of faith, this is even more true. Be a good steward of what you have in font of you. Only then will you develop any skills or gain any new insight from that thing in front of you. And only then will you earn a better opportunity.
When I’ve been in situations that weren’t ideal. I always ask, “God, what do You have for me to learn in this right here? I can’t get myself out – at least immediately – so there must be something that I can learn or a skill I can develop. Help me find it.”
Don’t pray for changed circumstances only. Pray for your personal development within that situation.
So making the most of your bad (possibly) choice is all about forgetting about the decision and owning the stage you ended up on.
Either that or get off of it completely. But quitting isn’t just an event, it’s also a habit. Be careful with that choice!