It’s simple.
Focus on your past.
That’s how you lose control of your future.
If you spend all of your time looking in the rearview mirror, there’s a good chance you’ll run off the road or get in a wreck.
I used to be a big proponent of making sure I deal with my past – or encouraging others to deal with their pasts so they can get healed and move on.
That might be helpful to a certain degree, but I’m now more inclined to encourage myself and others to decide what they want their future to look like and start working towards that vs. stressing over loss, dead relationships, or past failures.
As I heard Dabo Swinney say on some podcast or something – the windshield is a lot bigger than the rearview mirror for a reason.
Learn the lessons. Grow. Improve. But don’t dwell on that which has already taken place.
Your future can always be a lot brighter and a lot more exciting when you’re focused forward.
Time doesn’t stop marching forward just because you’re looking backward. You’ll just be missing everything. That’s no way to live.